By: Kevin Bosin, MSW, Supervisee in Social Work
When you make that decision to share your life with someone, one of the truest tests that you as a couple will face is how you will approach the holiday season together. Often, a lot of effort and emphasis is placed on trying to retain these practices to mimic what they were before your relationship. This also has the propensity to be a highly stressful point of contention among couples that can pollute what could otherwise be a relaxing, enjoyable, and loving holiday season.
At some point, you will have to confront the reality that in some way. You will have to modify and accommodate what could possibly be some of the most precious traditions that each of you have developed from your childhood all the way up to this point in your life. This could be an emotionally charged and possibly depressing event, or you can flip the script and turn this time into taking an evolutionary opportunity to build new traditions. These traditions can still contain meaningful elements from each of your lives. Try to approach it as developing new traditions that are built on the foundations of the elements that each of you brought to the relationship. Through your shared experiences, you have an opportunity to create new and meaningful traditions that can be passed down to your own family one day down the road.